Statutory Rape – A Lesson Congress Should Have Learned
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1 Dinah, the daughter of Leah, whom she bore to Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. 2 Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, the prince of the land, saw her. He took her, lay with her, and humbled her. 3 His soul joined to Dinah, the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young lady, and spoke kindly to the young lady. 4 Shechem spoke to his father, Hamor, saying, “Get me this young lady as a wife.”
5 Now Jacob heard that he had defiled Dinah, his daughter; and his sons were with his livestock in the field. Jacob held his peace until they came. 6 Hamor the father of Shechem went out to Jacob to talk with him. 7 The sons of Jacob came in from the field when they heard it. The men were grieved, and they were very angry, because he had done folly in Israel in lying with Jacob’s daughter; a thing ought not to be done. 8 Hamor talked with them, saying, “The soul of my son, Shechem, longs for your daughter. Please give her to him as a wife. 9 Make marriages with us. Give your daughters to us, and take our daughters for yourselves. 10 You shall dwell with us, and the land will be before you. Live and trade in it, and get possessions in it.”
11 Shechem said to her father and to her brothers, “Let me find favor in your eyes, and whatever you will tell me I will give. 12 Ask me a great amount for a dowry, and I will give whatever you ask of me, but give me the young lady as a wife.”
13 The sons of Jacob answered Shechem and Hamor his father with deceit, and spoke, because he had defiled Dinah their sister, 14 and said to them, “We can’t do this thing, to give our sister to one who is uncircumcised; for that is a reproach to us. 15 Only on this condition will we consent to you. If you will be as we are, that every male of you be circumcised; 16 then will we give our daughters to you, and we will take your daughters to us, and we will dwell with you, and we will become one people. 17 But if you will not listen to us, to be circumcised, then we will take our sister,* and we will be gone.”
18 Their words pleased Hamor and Shechem, Hamor’s son. 19 The young man didn’t wait to do this thing, because he had delight in Jacob’s daughter, and he was honored above all the house of his father. 20 Hamor and Shechem, his son, came to the gate of their city, and talked with the men of their city, saying, 21 “These men are peaceful with us. Therefore let them live in the land and trade in it. For behold, the land is large enough for them. Let us take their daughters to us for wives, and let us give them our daughters. 22 Only on this condition will the men consent to us to live with us, to become one people, if every male among us is circumcised, as they are circumcised. 23 Won’t their livestock and their possessions and all their animals be ours? Only let us give our consent to them, and they will dwell with us.”
24 All who went out of the gate of his city listened to Hamor, and to Shechem his son; and every male was circumcised, all who went out of the gate of his city. 25 On the third day, when they were sore, two of Jacob’s sons, Simeon and Levi, Dinah’s brothers, each took his sword, came upon the unsuspecting city, and killed all the males. 26 They killed Hamor and Shechem, his son, with the edge of the sword, and took Dinah out of Shechem’s house, and went away.27 Jacob’s sons came on the dead, and plundered the city, because they had defiled their sister. 28 They took their flocks, their herds, their donkeys, that which was in the city, that which was in the field, 29 and all their wealth. They took captive all their little ones and their wives, and took as plunder everything that was in the house. 30 Jacob said to Simeon and Levi, “You have troubled me, to make me odious to the inhabitants of the land, among the Canaanites and the Perizzites. I am few in number. They will gather themselves together against me and strike me, and I will be destroyed, I and my house.”
31 They said, “Should he deal with our sister as with a prostitute?”
Thoughts for the day
This story is one we Dad’s, and the young men of the world need to pay attention to. Some men, and women learn the principles of this story early in life, but most must crash and burn at least once before they understand. Dinah Jacob’s daughter is curious about the people in their new location. Remember, in the last chapter they purchased property outside the city and setup camp. Dinah goes to hang out with local girls presumably to make friends and learn about the area. In thinking about young girls there are two things they like to do, attract attention, and tease young men to gain affirmation that they are beautiful. Since Dinah was from out of the area she was fresh meat; which would make her more attractive than the local girls. Dinah while visiting attracts the attention of the local Prince who straight away commanded her to have sex with him. Due to his strength and position power she was forced to concede. (Statutory rape does not always involve physical force, it can just be sure will exerted by age difference, position power or even mental manipulation). People need to be careful about how they approach others in any sort of deal to make sure everyone has understanding and right of refusal. He did not worry about Dina’s feelings he as he was planning to make her his wife, he had sex with her because she was beautiful and had an attractive personality, and mostly because he could. While having sex with her he realizes he actually loved her and wanted her for his wife (sex does bind hearts, so maybe? Maybe his love was more infatuation like the thrill that will get you while driving a fast bike down a mountain road, a faster bike at later date will be loved even more). He orders his father, to obtain Dinah as his wife. In Arab tradition, we know as was illustrated by Abraham and Issac’s fears that kings and princes would kill them for their wives. It is not unusual for royalty to take what they want. The Prince, may not have been out of step with what was customary, but custom is not always enough to make it right.
In our culture much of the romance, dating and chivalry have been lost. Since the late 50’s women have been liberated to no longer need the wooing of a man, and men have been taught that real men don’t say or do nice things unless it is payment for what they want. Today we find our young people having sex with whomever draws their eye. They are shocked when someone disputes the idea that sex was meant for after marriage. Sadly, they feel good sex will lead to a great marriage. Thanks to our tolerance of Hollywood and the media we worship sex instead of our creator and each other. (Recent law suites in 2017 might be pointing out we can live like dogs for so long. Maybe the media moguls, Hollywood, and those in authority are experiencing their day of reckoning.) Can’t a couple at least take the time to know a each other, learn their ways? I as a male have experienced serious sexual harassment from a female supervisor for a time. She wanted use me for carnal pleasure and to get her husband’s attention. Men are supposed to like this, but being used, is being used, and when it is by your boss, it can be near impossible to resist. God rescued me by providing fear, stubbornness, and staying power. No one needs job stress like this. She tried to woo me with dinners and the like, but she was my boss and married. This is wrong via man’s law, and adultery is wrong via God’s law. If the Prince in the bible had heeded God’s law there would be more men among the living, and he might have had a chance at a real relationship with Dina. A marriage based on sex, and missing the joining of each other’s passions in life, will be a lifelong drudgery if it last that long. Young men need to learn manners, learn what it meant to woo your women, and learn chivalry; it may be ancient history, it’s not free love, you get what you pay for. Young ladies don’t ever give yourself to a man who does not possess these qualities, he is a bottom feeder and wimp; no matter what body he is occupying may look like. In the end you marry the man, not the body. We have a duty to ourselves to not get physical until after marriage, but to get close to each other in mind and task as we determine who our mate will be. Had Dinah gone to town with another sibling, and not left herself less open (Been street wise), the Prince might have been more interested in Dinah, than Dinah’s body. He may have gotten her for a wife. If our government, media moguls, and Hollywood elites respected God’s law our nation would be experiencing less embracement today. This is a wake-up call to us now, just as it was in the Princes day. I expect no one will notice.
In the prince’s culture he may have been able to just command a woman to have sex with him, and she would be obligated to do it. Jacob’s boys, did not see it that way. So, when the Prince’s father requested Dinah’s hand in marriage he did not have the upper hand. Jacob’s boys tricked the king into injuring himself and his men via circumcision, so they can kill him and his men while in pain. The trick worked, and the King, his family, and congress were killed. The cost of taking Dinah in this way was high for Jacob who now fears his sons may have caused a war, for the prince, and his family and everyone in between.
Today, the costs of improper dating can be high ranging from a marriage made in hell, jail, diseases, or regret that will hound you to your dying day. Shechem being a prince, Dinah being beautiful, and probably somewhat interested in the man may have married him and made him a wonderful wife had he been a gentleman.
Verse 30 – Jacob is worried about being annihilated by the Canaanites. Based on the text so far what do you think Jacobs chances of being slain are?
Have a wonderful day, for some of us we are too young to have seen much in the line of manners and chivalry, but if we don’t learn these things and bring them back what chance does our country have? Praise God for the society we have, and work make it better every day…..