Abraham was old, and well stricken in age. Yahweh had blessed Abraham in all things. 2 Abraham said to his servant, the elder of his house, who ruled over all that he had, “Please put your hand under my thigh. 3 I will make you swear by Yahweh, the God of heaven and the God of the earth, that you shall not take a wife for my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I live. 4 But you shall go to my country, and to my relatives, and take a wife for my son Isaac.”
5 The servant said to him, “What if the woman isn’t willing to follow me to this land? Must I bring your son again to the land you came from?”
6 Abraham said to him, “Beware that you don’t bring my son there again. 7 Yahweh, the God of heaven, who took me from my father’s house, and from the land of my birth, who spoke to me, and who swore to me, saying, ‘I will give this land to your offspring.* He will send his angel before you, and you shall take a wife for my son from there. 8 If the woman isn’t willing to follow you, then you shall be clear from this oath to me. Only you shall not bring my son there again.”
9 The servant put his hand under the thigh of Abraham his master, and swore to him concerning this matter. 10 The servant took ten camels, of his master’s camels, and departed, having a variety of good things of his master’s with him. He arose, and went to Mesopotamia, to the city of Nahor. 11 He made the camels kneel down outside the city by the well of water at the time of evening, the time that women go out to draw water. 12 He said, “Yahweh, the God of my master Abraham, please give me success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. 13 Behold, I am standing by the spring of water. The daughters of the men of the city are coming out to draw water. 14 Let it happen, that the young lady to whom I will say, ‘Please let down your pitcher, that I may drink,’ and she will say, ‘Drink, and I will also give your camels a drink,’—let her be the one you have appointed for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.”
15 Before he had finished speaking, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel the son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham’s brother, with her pitcher on her shoulder. 16 The young lady was very beautiful to look at, a virgin. No man had known her. She went down to the spring, filled her pitcher, and came up. 17 The servant ran to meet her, and said, “Please give me a drink, a little water from your pitcher.”
18 She said, “Drink, my lord.” She hurried, and let down her pitcher on her hand, and gave him drink. 19 When she had done giving him drink, she said, “I will also draw for your camels, until they have done drinking.” 20 She hurried, and emptied her pitcher into the trough, and ran again to the well to draw, and drew for all his camels.
21 The man looked steadfastly at her, remaining silent, to know whether Yahweh had made his journey prosperous or not. 22 As the camels had done drinking, the man took a golden ring of half a shekel† weight, and two bracelets for her hands of ten shekels weight of gold, 23 and said, “Whose daughter are you? Please tell me. Is there room in your father’s house for us to lodge in?”
24 She said to him, “I am the daughter of Bethuel the son of Milcah, whom she bore to Nahor.” 25 She said moreover to him, “We have both straw and feed enough, and room to lodge in.”
26 The man bowed his head, and worshiped Yahweh. 27 He said, “Blessed be Yahweh, the God of my master Abraham, who has not forsaken his loving kindness and his truth toward my master. As for me, Yahweh has led me on the way to the house of my master’s relatives.”
28 The young lady ran, and told her mother’s house about these words. 29 Rebekah had a brother, and his name was Laban. Laban ran out to the man, to the spring. 30 When he saw the ring, and the bracelets on his sister’s hands, and when he heard the words of Rebekah his sister, saying, “This is what the man said to me,” he came to the man. Behold, he was standing by the camels at the spring. 31 He said, “Come in, you blessed of Yahweh. Why do you stand outside? For I have prepared the house, and room for the camels.”
32 The man came into the house, and he unloaded the camels. He gave straw and feed for the camels, and water to wash his feet and the feet of the men who were with him. 33 Food was set before him to eat, but he said, “I will not eat until I have told my message.”
He said, “Speak on.”
34 He said, “I am Abraham’s servant. 35 Yahweh has blessed my master greatly. He has become great. He has given him flocks and herds, silver and gold, male servants and female servants, and camels and donkeys. 36 Sarah, my master’s wife, bore a son to my master when she was old. He has given all that he has to him. 37 My master made me swear, saying, ‘You shall not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, in whose land I live, 38 but you shall go to my father’s house, and to my relatives, and take a wife for my son.’ 39 I asked my master, ‘What if the woman will not follow me?’ 40 He said to me, ‘Yahweh, before whom I walk, will send his angel with you, and prosper your way. You shall take a wife for my son from my relatives, and of my father’s house. 41 Then will you be clear from my oath, when you come to my relatives. If they don’t give her to you, you shall be clear from my oath.’ 42 I came today to the spring, and said, ‘Yahweh, the God of my master Abraham, if now you do prosper my way which I go— 43 behold, I am standing by this spring of water. Let it happen, that the maiden who comes out to draw, to whom I will say, “Please give me a little water from your pitcher to drink,” 44 and she will tell me, “Drink, and I will also draw for your camels,”—let her be the woman whom Yahweh has appointed for my master’s son.’ 45 Before I had finished speaking in my heart, behold, Rebekah came out with her pitcher on her shoulder. She went down to the spring, and drew. I said to her, ‘Please let me drink.’ 46 She hurried and let down her pitcher from her shoulder, and said, ‘Drink, and I will also give your camels a drink.’ So I drank, and she also gave the camels a drink. 47 I asked her, and said, ‘Whose daughter are you?’ She said, ‘The daughter of Bethuel, Nahor’s son, whom Milcah bore to him.’ I put the ring on her nose, and the bracelets on her hands. 48 I bowed my head, and worshiped Yahweh, and blessed Yahweh, the God of my master Abraham, who had led me in the right way to take my master’s brother’s daughter for his son. 49 Now if you will deal kindly and truly with my master, tell me. If not, tell me, that I may turn to the right hand, or to the left.”
50 Then Laban and Bethuel answered, “The thing proceeds from Yahweh. We can’t speak to you bad or good. 51 Behold, Rebekah is before you. Take her, and go, and let her be your master’s son’s wife, as Yahweh has spoken.”
52 When Abraham’s servant heard their words, he bowed himself down to the earth to Yahweh. 53 The servant brought out jewels of silver, and jewels of gold, and clothing, and gave them to Rebekah. He also gave precious things to her brother and her mother. 54 They ate and drank, he and the men who were with him, and stayed all night. They rose up in the morning, and he said, “Send me away to my master.”
55 Her brother and her mother said, “Let the young lady stay with us a few days, at least ten. After that she will go.”
56 He said to them, “Don’t hinder me, since Yahweh has prospered my way. Send me away that I may go to my master.”
57 They said, “We will call the young lady, and ask her.” 58 They called Rebekah, and said to her, “Will you go with this man?”
She said, “I will go.”
59 They sent away Rebekah, their sister, with her nurse, Abraham’s servant, and his men. 60 They blessed Rebekah, and said to her, “Our sister, may you be the mother of thousands of ten thousands, and let your offspring‡ possess the gate of those who hate them.”
61 Rebekah arose with her ladies. They rode on the camels, and followed the man. The servant took Rebekah, and went his way. 62 Isaac came from the way of Beer Lahai Roi, for he lived in the land of the South. 63 Isaac went out to meditate in the field at the evening. He lifted up his eyes, and saw, and, behold, there were camels coming. 64 Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac, she dismounted from the camel. 65 She said to the servant, “Who is the man who is walking in the field to meet us?”
The servant said, “It is my master.”
She took her veil, and covered herself. 66 The servant told Isaac all the things that he had done. 67 Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife. He loved her. Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
Thought for the Day
Abraham was fearing that he was getting to the terminal end of his life. Sarah was dead, and soon it would just be Issac. Abraham did not want Isaac marrying a Canaanite woman, so he sends his servant to fetch a woman from his relatives in his homeland. That is a tall order for a servant, but the servant did as he was told. The servant took 10 camels and a bunch Abraham’s Gold and silver trinkets and set out for the homeland. When the servant arrived in Mesopotamia the land of Abraham he stopped off at a well.
While at the well, he saw several young ladies approaching. How would he know which one to select? Most guys just go around asking for what they want and get slapped repeatedly, until they find a lady who is willing and ready. Since the servant was not shopping for himself, he could not use this method. I can’t even imagine the responsibility of selecting a woman for another guy, especially if he was my boss. That is a heavy responsibility! So the servant did exactly as I would have done in this situation He prayed that God would make a certain set of events happen so that he would know he had found the correct lady to ask.
Verse – 14 Let it happen, that the young lady to whom I will say, ‘Please let down your pitcher, that I may drink,’ and she will say, ‘Drink, and I will also give your camels a drink,’—let her be the one you have appointed for your servant Isaac. Verse 15, Rebekah shows up and does exactly as the servant asked God to have her do. She not only does the things he asked God to have her do, but she invites him home, offers rest for the camels, and quarters for him to sleep. The Lord guided the servant to Rebekah, and there was no doubt that this was the woman God chosen; and her kindness proved she was a keeper.
Amazingly she and her family were willing to let her go immediately for the return trip back. Once they reached Isaac; the story pleased him, and he took Rebekah into his tent and made her his wife. Looks as though marriage was somewhat unceremonious in his day. When Christian man and a woman choose to share a bed together, it is my belief that in the eyes of God, they are married in the eyes of God, and they must answer to God if they see it otherwise.
Our wedding ceremonies today are not to tell God we are married, but are to tell the world that we are married. Fornication is discouraged in the bible. We need wait for the marriage ceremony. The ceremony in a formal Christian setting forms external accountability. When a couple commits themselves in marriage, they have a responsibility to stay together and raise a family together. Back when we had true community, peer pressure made sure everyone was doing their duty. Today, many young Christians believe that if they have sex with someone that makes that’s fine. The relationship is only monogamous until one or the other get bored. Boredom is Fickle! It comes and goes. This problem is so prevalent to today that I really do not have to give examples.
Did this consummation of marriage with a ceremony work for Isaac and Rebekah? Simply put most people do not understand commitment like they did then. Today, there is marriage in the eyes of the state, that institution is only useful for tax benefits and principally the right of survivor ship for the household wealth. The state, does not recognize God, nor the Christian idea of marriage. Other than for government benefits that are rapidly disappearing, with the states redefinition of marriage, I could take it or leave it. Marriage is not a constitutional right in the United States, it is just an age old tradition. Christians, are married in the eyes of God, and their friends. If the government oversteps its boundaries and begins forcing churches to perform nontraditional marriages, it may well be time to have a small ceremony among friends, leaving the state out altogether.
Obviously in Isaac’s day traditional marriage was different than it is here in the United States today, in that you can meet a lady, take her in your tent, and that makes her your wife. As time moves on through the bibles we will see how the traditional definitions change slightly. Man is not always good, and to provide for the security of the family, God will give us give us more definitive behavior for marriage later on.
Though this marriage is different from what we have today, it was no less valid and Isaac now has Rebekah for a wife. Most of us don’t just get to send someone out to bring us our new spouse. None the less, if wait on the Lord, he is no less remiss in selecting a spouse for us today. My marriage was arranged by God, waiting for him seemed like an eternity, but he was faithful and gave me a wonderful woman that after 25 years is as wonderful as she was when I met her.
Have a wonderful day and trust that the Lord will provide…